How many times do you find yourself telling your story and what is it about? Are you a victim of your life or are you a Victor? Is your story about what happened to you or is your story about how you happened in your life? So you don’t like what’s happening now? Change your story. Yes it is that simple.
Every once in a while I will have a new client come in and I’ll say “How are you?” They’ll say, “I’m depressed.” And I say, “Dang right! You keep telling yourself that you are going to be depressed.” Or they’ll say, “My husband is not doing well, I don’t know what to do about it.” Well first thing, you can’t enable him by letting him live that sad story he’s living in his mind. Snap out of it. Once you label something as “bad” guess what? It’s going to be BAD.
Try this next time something happens that you REALLY didn’t want to happen just do not react. Take a moment, stop and BREATHE. Take the master’s approach and do not judge the moment as “bad”. Simply let the moment be what it is and see the gift that is below your normal reaction, your normal label. Um, your normal story telling.
Things always have a way of working out. How many times have things gone “wrong” or “not worked out” in your life to later turn out to be HUGE blessings?
Try to keep that sense of peace and calm in this “happening” moment by looking at the bigger picture and remembering that this is happening for a kind and compassionate reason. To label an event as “bad” and then to attach a story to that event that disempowers you, will not help you grow, be happy or find peace of mind. Get out of the little picture you are in as victim, move into victor and look at the big picture. It helps!
The only thing you truly have control over in your life is the MEANING which you GIVE TO EVENTS. Almost everything else is out of your control. Like my quote says, you have the freedom to choose your own attitude in any given circumstance! The story you tell yourself about the events that happen in your life, and the MEANING you give that story, will directly affect the quality of your life.
Tell an empowering story. Give a positive and empowering meaning to that story and detach from the need to react like you would normally. The more you do this, the smoother life will become – not because there are fewer problems – but because you have come to understand the true gifts of the problems in your life.
Once you do this, the Universe can give you EVEN bigger problems to be grateful for and learn from. This is how you become successful. Tell an empowering story about the events of your life, give that story an empowering meaning and watch the magic unfold! Quit telling that “poor me” story and living in victim-hood because something happened to you. Get out there and see how you happened to your life and become the Victor you are meant to be!! -Kathie