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Detachment – What is it and how it can help you

November 14th, 2011

Guest Post by Remez Sasson

Detachment is an inner state of calmness and being uninvolved on the emotional and mental planes. It is definitely not indifference. People who are indifferent, do not care about anything, and are not active and initiative. On the other hand, people who possess emotional and mental detachment can be very active and caring, though they accept calmly whatever happens. Such people accept the good and the bad equally, because they enjoy inner balance and peace.

If they cannot do or change something, it does not disturb their peace of mind. If they are convinced of the importance of some action, they will pursue it whole-heartedly, and can ignore distractions easily. If they succeed with what they do, that is fine, and if they don’t, they will either try again or forget the matter and move to something else.

Count the number of times you got emotionally involved in something against your will and better judgment. How many times have you got angry, frustrated or disappointed? How many times have your moods swung high and low? Each time you tell yourself that next time you will stay cool and calm, and yet each time you forget what you said.

When it comes to personal affairs, it is hard to stay emotionally uninvolved. You get involved, and this is quite natural, otherwise life would have been boring. Involvement makes life ticking and active. However, it is advisable to develop at least some detachment, as this will help you in many situations.

Detachment is important in daily life, in the pursuit of ambitions and on the spiritual path. It is important to everyone, whether pursuing spirituality or material success. Every spiritual tradition speaks about detachment, but detachment cannot be confined only to spirituality.

Let me give you some examples of detachment. Suppose you meditate, but thoughts keep coming into your mind. You get emotionally involved with your thoughts, follow them and forget about your meditation and concentration. If you could express detachment, it would have been easier to ignore the disturbing thoughts. Detachment would have helped you to stay collected and concentrated.

What happens when somebody says to you something that you do not like? You will probably become angry, unhappy or insulted. Why is this so? Because you value other’s people words and opinions more than you value your own thoughts and opinions of yourself. You let other’s people thoughts, words and actions influence your happiness, actions and reactions. Your happiness and actions depend on them.

On the other hand, if you are able to stay detached, you will not be disturbed. You will stay calm. You will even be able to benefit from what they say. You will not waste hours thinking about their words.

Have you ever thought, how much time and energy are wasted every day, brooding on useless thoughts and feelings, due to lack of detachment? Much of the anger, frustration, unhappiness and disappointments are due to lack of detachment.

One of the ways to develop detachment is through meditation. In meditation, one endeavors not to follow the thoughts and feelings that arise. Meditating day after day, develops the habit of staying calm and emotionally detached, not only during meditation, but also in everyday life.

If you practice any kind of meditation, sooner or later, you will start to experience detachment. You will find that you feel and behave in a different way under circumstances that previously raised anger or agitation. You will find that you can handle your daily affairs of life in a calm and relaxed way.

© Copyright Remez Sasson

Remez Sasson teaches and writes on positive thinking, creative visualization, motivation, self-improvement, peace of mind, spiritual growth and meditation. He is the author of several books, among which are “Peace of mind in Daily Life”, “Will Power and Self Discipline”, “Visualize and Achieve” and “Affirmations – Words of Power”.

Visit his website and find articles and books filled with inspiration, motivation and practical advice and guidance.
Website: http://www.SuccessConsciousness.com
Books: http://www.successconsciousness.com/ebooks_and_books.htm

Kathie’s Fitness Blog Supports Healthy Monday Campaign

November 8th, 2011

Healthy Monday is a national non-profit public health campaign associated with Columbia University’s Mailman School of Public Health. The campaign encourages people to use Monday as the day to focus on health and prevention. Instead of waiting until New Year’s, your birthday, or an anniversary to make a healthy change, use Monday. That way, you’ll have 52 opportunities make those changes you’ve been trying to make. It’s time to let all health break loose!

Understand the beauty of choosing Monday. Research performed by The Monday Campaigns movement shows that we already treat Monday like a fresh start day, a day dedicated to health and a day most favored for getting your act together. This happens to be a phenomenon cutting across cultures. It is also a day with negative connotations if you’re not enjoying the way you’re living your life, so this makes it another good reason to overcome the reasons for the negativity. Dedicating a specific day to health provides both a call to action and a way for people to increase compliance and impact.

  • We tend to organize our lives around the week, starting with Monday. Monday is the day to set goals, refocus, and recommit and it is the day to trigger and sustain healthy behavior.

Limit your saturated fat intake by going meatless once a week. Meatless Monday atwww.meatlessmonday.com is a project associated with the Johns Hopkins School of Public Health. This project is about encouraging you to give up meat one day a week and to cut your intake of saturated fat by 15 percent. Doing this can reduce your risk of developing heart disease, diabetes, obesity, and certain types of cancer. That’s a great promise for a new habit this Monday! If you look on the left side of my blog, there is a meatless menu with recipes. Or just Click Here now for this week’s Meatless Menu.

Start exercising. The CDC recommends doing 2 1/2 hours of exercise minimum each week.  The benefits of exercise include improved health, longer life and a boost for your brain power. Use Monday as the day to commit to an exercise routine. Start walking, join a gym, enroll in a fitness class, or even just plan out physical activities for the week and stick to them! Here are some things you can do to help improve your physical activity.

    • Decide which activity you’ll start doing regularly. Click Here for a link to Centers for Disease Control and Prevention lists of physical activity ideas and tips.
    • Create Monday Mile Maps and markers to help others know how far they’re exercising; place these on tracks, paths and other exercise areas designated for Move-It Mondays.
    • Encourage others to join in by starting a walking group or fitness class at your workplace or school.
    • As a family, get out and exercise together by taking walks or hikes, cycling together, doing indoor sports activities or joining a sports club together; help enthuse one another to be active regularly.

Quit Smoking. Not smoking is one of the healthiest things you can do for yourself. As soon as you stop smoking, you’ll start seeing and feeling the effects. However, it can be hard to get started and commit. That is why the Healthy Monday Campaign recommends that you try and quit on Monday. Instead of waiting until New Year’s Eve, your birthday or anniversary, having a weekly opportunity to recommit to your goal is more likely to succeed. Some things to do include:

Begin the week determined to reduce stress in your life. Focus on having a Mindful Monday and bring more relaxation back into your life: (The links are wiki Howto tips click on them they are very helpful.)

  • Meditate - meditation can clear out the negative thoughts and worrying clutter in your mind, allowing you to focus clearly on what you really want in life
  • Stay calm – when everyone else is panicking, a calm head will win the day
  • Learn how to self soothe – getting upset may be a habit but it’s a bad one that prevents you from remaining calm and focused; learning to self soothe can help you to overcome panic, anxiety and negative thought processes
  • Familiarize yourself with assertive approaches to dealing with conflict and “difficult” people – this will ensure that you can stand up for yourself and not feel victimized
  • Practice deep breathing techniques – this helps with calming, soothing and focusing yourself
  • Visualize a stronger and more fulfilled future for yourself.

Click Here for 2011 Healthy Monday Motivators

Is that So?

July 6th, 2011

There is a story about a Zen Master named Hakuin who lived in a town in Japan. He was held in high regard and many people came to him for spiritual teaching. Then it happened that the teenage daughter of his next-door neighbor became pregnant. When being questioned by her angry and scolding parents as to the identity of the father, she finally told them that the father was Hakuin, the Zen Master. In great anger the parents rushed over to Hakuin and told him with much shouting and accusing that their daughter had confessed that he was the father. All that he replied was, “Is that so?”

News of the scandal spread throughout the town and beyond and the Master lost his reputation. This did not trouble him. Nobody came to see him anymore. He remained unmoved. When the child was born, the parents brought the baby to Hakuin saying, “You are the father, so you look after him.” The Master took loving care of the child. A year later, the mother remorsefully confessed to her parents that the real father of the child was the young man who worked at the butcher shop. In great distress they went to see Hakuin to apologize and ask forgiveness. “We are really sorry. We have come to take the baby back. Our daughter confessed that you are not the father.” “Is that so?” is all Hakuin would say as handed the baby over to them.

The Master responds to falsehood and truths, bad news and good news, in exactly the same way: “Is that so?” He allows the form of the moment, good or bad, to be as it is. Events are not personalized. He is nobody’s victim. He is so completely at one with what happens that what happens has no power over him anymore. Only if you resist what happens are you truly at the mercy of what happens, and the world will determine your happiness and unhappiness. The baby is looked after with loving care. Nonresistance very powerful and so-called “bad” turns into so-called “good” through the power of nonresistance. Always responding to what present moment requires, Hakuin lets go of the baby when it is time to do so.

Imagine briefly how the ego would have responded during the various stages of unfolding previous events.

I read this story in a book called “A New Earth” by Eckhart Tolle in 2006. This book dramatically changed my life. This little story about the Zen Master will be the intro to my book titled “The Truth Bubbles Up”. And for those of you who know my story you understand why ;-) . When I read this little story I learned to let go of resistance to what is. I also realized that by NOT labeling things good and bad can and will change the way you look at things. Who are we to say that something is “bad” or something is “good”? How do you really know this? Do you really know the big picture? Stay present in the moment like the Zen Master in this story in the middle of something that may seem tragic to our measly ego and what will change is your perspective. When your perspective changes; everything changes. Click on the link below to buy the book A New Earth now:

Smile Into Your Liver Today :)

June 8th, 2011

Re-publishing this to a more recent date for my friend Vesna. Enjoy yall! Kathie :)

“…You learned to smile, even in your liver?”
“Even in my liver Ketut. Big smile in my liver.”
“Good this smile will make you beautiful woman. This will give you power to be very pretty! You can use this power to get what you want in life. Pretty power!”….This was taken from page 241 Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert

Ketut Kiyer says “To meditate you only must smile” “It’s that easy” That’s it.

Smile with face, smile with mind and good energy will come to you and clean away dirty energy. Even smile in your liver. You can call the good energy with a smile.” Ketut Kiyer

How beautiful is that? Smiling will clean away dirty energy. You can call good energy anytime with an internal or external smile.

You have to read the book Eat Pray Love, or now, see the movie with Julia Roberts to learn about this. But this very discussion led me to write this blog post about the Smile Meditation.

The Smile Meditation is super powerful! It can heal you of any and all disease (mental and physical). It can teach you gratitude. It can teach you love. And it will definately make you happy. Try it.

Deepak Chopra observed “Your brain produces a chemical that relays news of your happiness to all 52 million of your body cells – who rejoice and join in.” Smiling in your body creates this news of happiness and does your body so much good! This is the greatest therapy in the world. And it is absolutely FREE! It is healing. Guess what? It is youth reviving! Did I mention it is FREE? Yes it will revitalize your youth and make you very pretty! A powerful kind of pretty.

Below is The Smile Meditation in detail with its credit. It is taken from Mantik Chia’s books listed at the bottom. Enjoy and most of all – Smile from your liver!!! Kathie :)

Preparation For The Inner Smile

  • Wait at least an hour after eating to begin the practice.
  • Choose a quiet spot.  Later on (as you become more experienced) you will be able to practice almost anywhere with any noise.
  • Dress warmly enough not to be chilled.
  • Sit comfortably near the edge of your chair with your feet flat on the floor.  Keep your back straight, but not stiff.  Stay relaxed, and clasp your hands together in your lap, left palm on bottom, right palm on top.
  • Close your eyes and become aware of the soles of your feet.  Feel their connection to the ground and the energy of the earth.
  • Create a source of smiling energy up to three feet in front of you.  This can be an image of your own smiling face, or of someone or something you love and respect, or any memory of a time in which you felt deeply at peace, perhaps feeling sunshine, being by the ocean, or walking in a forest.
  • Become aware of the midpoint between your eyebrows through which you will draw this abundant smiling energy in front of and around you.  Let your forehead relax, and allow the Third Eye to open.  As the smiling energy accumulates at the mid-eyebrow, it will eventually overflow into your body.

Smiling Down The Organs – The Front Line

Allow the smiling energy to flow down from the mid-eyebrow through your face, relaxing the cheeks, nose, mouth, and all the facial muscles.  Let it flow down through your neck.  You can roll your head slowly and gently from side to side as you do this.

  • The Thymus Gland.  Let the smiling energy flow down to your thymus gland, which is located behind the upper part of your sternum, and picture it glowing with vibrant health.  Feel the thymus gland become warm as it begins to vibrate and expand like a flower blossoming.
  • The Heart.  Feel the stream of relaxation flow down into your heart.  People who are nervous or who anger quickly often experience pain and tense feelings in and about the heart.  Extending the smile relieves stored tension and enables a new kind of functioning to take place.  Spend as much here as you need to feel the heart relax and expand with loving energy.  This expansion will feel like a flower blossoming.  Fill your heart with love.  Let your heart be your “sweetheart.”
  • The Lungs.  Radiate the love in your heart to your lungs.  Feel your lungs soften and breathe with new ease.  feel the air inside lighten up as it enters and leaves the lungs.  Feel their moist spongy quality as you relax and fill your lungs with energy.
  • The Liver.  Now smile into your liver on the right side, just below the rib cage.  If your liver is hard, if it is difficult to feel, soften it with your smile.  Smile it back to life, rejuvenate it with your love.
  • The Pancreas.  Let the smiling energy now flow across the abdomen to the pancreas, which is located within the left lower rib cage.  Thank it for its work, and see that it is healthy and functioning smoothly.
  • The Spleen.  Continuing around to the left, smile into the spleen.  Don’t worry if you don’t know exactly where it is.  If you smile in that direction you will gradually get in touch with it.  If you need to, return to the source of smiling energy in front of you, and let it flow through the mid-eyebrow and down to the area of the spleen.  As smiling, loving energy builds up in the spleen, let it flow into the kidneys.
  • The Kidneys.  Direct the smile to your two kidneys, in your lower back just below the rib cage on either side of the spine.  The adrenal glands sit on top of them.  Smile at your adrenals, and they may send you a burst of adrenalin.  The kidney is the lower transformer of the veins and arteries.  Smile to the kidneys and fill them with love.  Like the heart, this will increase the flow of chi circulating through the body.
  • Next, send the smiling energy into the urinary bladder, urethra, genitals, and perineum.

Smiling Down The Digestive System – The Middle Line

Smile once more in your eyes.  Smile down into your mouth and swish your tongue around to collect saliva.  When your mouth is filled with saliva, put the tip of your tongue to your palate, tighten your neck muscles, and swallow hard and quickly, making a gulping sound as you do.  With your inner smile follow the saliva down your esophagus, through your internal tract and to your navel.  Smile away the nervous energy in your stomach, and you will eat better food and find it easier to digest.  Relax the smiling energy into your small intestine, large intestine, and rectum.

Smiling Down The Spine – The Back Line

  • Bring your attention back to the source of smiling energy; collect the power of the smile in the third eye (mid-eyebrows).
  • Draw the smiling energy about three to four inches (7.5 to 10 cm) to the pituitary gland, and feel it blossom.  Smile into the thalamus gland, and into the pineal gland at the crown.
  • Project the smiling energy back and forth through the left brain, then through the right brain, and back again.  This will balance the left and right brain.
  • Move the inner smiling energy down to the mid-brain and down the inside of your spinal column.  Make sure your posture is straight with shoulders slightly rounded forward.  Descend one vertebra at a time, smiling onto each until you have reached the coccyx.  You should experience a feeling of great ease, warmth, and comfort in each vertebra.  With the lumbar, coccyx, and pubic areas are relaxed power is released an flows more easily up the back.  Back pain can be prevented or relieved by smiling into the spine.

Smiling Down The Entire Length Of Your Body

  • Start at the eyes again.  Direct the Inner Smile’s eyesight.  Quickly smile down the Front Line.  Follow the smiling down the Middle Line and then the Back Line.  When you are more experienced, smile down all three lines simultaneously.
  • Now, feel the energy descend down the entire length of your body, like a waterfall – a waterfall of smiles, joy and love.  Feel your whole body being loved and appreciated.  Be Happy!

Collecting The Smiling Energy At The Navel

  • It’s very important to end by storing the smiling energy in the navel.  Most ill effects of meditation are caused by excess energy in the head or heart.  The navel area can safely handle the increased energy.
  • To collect the smile’s energy, concentrate in your navel area, about one and a half inches inside your body.  Then, mentally move that energy in an outward spiral 36 times; don’t go above the diaphragm or beneath the pubic bone.  Women start the spiral counterclockwise, men start clockwise. Next, reverse the direction and bring it back into the navel, circling it 24 times.  Use your finger as a guide the first few times.  The energy is now safely stored in your navel, available to you whenever you need it and for whatever part of your body needs it.  You have now completed the Inner Smile.

Credit to the Source

Smile, Kathie :)

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Goal Setting Basics

May 3rd, 2011

“Without goals, you are like a ship without a rudder – heading in no particular direction.” -Roy Williams, Head Men’s Basketball Coach, University of North Carolina

We all know about the importance of goal setting and, to some extent, we all set them from time to time. But, guess what, not all goals are created equal. There are many types of goals, and some are more effective than others. Furthermore, certain types of goals may be more beneficial in some situations while others lead to more positive results in others. Sport psychologist Dr. Damon Burton, in his book “Sport Psychology for Coaches,” outlines the different types of goals one can set. At the risk of greatly oversimplifying Burton’s work, below is a summary of two basic goal types:

Outcome Goals

These are the goals you’d absolutely love to accomplish if all the pieces fell into place and you worked really, really hard. Outcome goals involve such statements as “I want to win,” or “I want to lose 20 lbs.” Outcome goals are great. They motivate us and they provide purpose for exercising or practicing so hard. Outcome goals come with some caveats, however. First of all, they do not provide a roadmap for accomplishing a particular goal. Saying “I want to win” delivers no information on what you need to do to actually accomplish this feat. Outcome goals are rigid and leave no room for adjustments. If your only goal is to lose 20 lbs. and you lose only 15 lbs., does this mean you failed? Numerous environmental conditions may occur that hinder your ability to reach your goals. But if you do not accomplish your exact target goal, it does little good to beat yourself down. According to Burton, flexibility is highly important in the goal setting process and outcome goals do not provide any room for error. Finally, outcome goals can be stressful. We can’t always control the conditions that determine whether we reach our goals or not. Worrying about factors that we cannot control places our focus on external conditions, leaving room for “what-ifs.” For example, if you are lining up for a bike race with the goal of winning, much of your goal relies on how the other competitors perform. If you have the best race of your life, but another competitor simply outperforms you, it’s disadvantageous to say that you failed to reach your goal. Sport psychologists refer to setting strictly outcome goals as living in “outcome world.”

Process Goals

Process goals are smaller, controllable goals that provide more information for how to reach our outcome goals. If you have an outcome goal of winning a running race, a process goal might be more along the lines of “I will lengthen my stride by an inch;” or “I will stick to my race plan and focus on just my race.” If your outcome is to lose 20 lbs., you might have a process goal of exercising for 30 minutes each day or decreasing your calorie consumption to the amount of calories you burn per day. Process goals are specific, measurable and controllable. These goals relieve stress because they are related to your own individual efforts. Process goals make reaching outcome goals more likely because they provide specific information for how to improve. Process goals are also flexible. While your outcome goal remains constant, you can adjust your process goals based on progress and degree of difficulty.

How to Set Goals

Whenever you set goals, it’s best to begin with your dream outcome goals. It’s okay to dream big, but your outcome goals should also be realistic. According to Burton, the most effective goals are those that are moderately difficult and represent about a 5 to 10 percent improvement beyond your previous level. If you can run a mile in eight minutes, aim to make your next goal to run it in about seven minutes and thirty seconds or so. Then, once you set your outcome goal, set about three or four process goals that will help you reach this outcome. Make them specific, controllable and within your ability level.

We hear about goal setting all the time, but it continues to be one of the most important, and most effective performance-enhancement tools you can use. While outcome goals are motivating, avoid living in outcome world. Keep your mind focused on specific process goals that are completely within your control.

The Story We Tell Ourselves

April 26th, 2011

“The last, if not the greatest, of the human freedoms: to choose their own attitude in any given circumstance.”- Bruno Bettelheim

How many times do you find yourself telling your story and what is it about? Are you a victim of your life or are you a Victor? Is your story about what happened to you or is your story about how you happened in your life? So you don’t like what’s happening now? Change your story. Yes it is that simple.

Every once in a while I will have a new client come in and I’ll say “How are you?” They’ll say, “I’m depressed.” And I say, “Dang right! You keep telling yourself that you are going to be depressed.” Or they’ll say, “My husband is not doing well, I don’t know what to do about it.” Well first thing, you can’t enable him by letting him live that sad story he’s living in his mind. Snap out of it. Once you label something as “bad” guess what?  It’s going to be BAD.

Try this next time something happens that you REALLY didn’t want to happen just do not react. Take a moment, stop and BREATHE. Take the master’s approach and do not judge the moment as “bad”. Simply let the moment be what it is and see the gift that is below your normal reaction, your normal label. Um, your normal story telling.

Things always have a way of working out. How many times have things gone “wrong” or “not worked out” in your life to later turn out to be HUGE blessings?

Try to keep that sense of peace and calm in this “happening” moment by looking at the bigger picture and remembering that this is happening for a kind and compassionate reason. To label an event as “bad” and then to attach a story to that event that disempowers you, will not help you grow, be happy or find peace of mind. Get out of the little picture you are in as victim, move into victor and look at the big picture. It helps!

The only thing you truly have control over in your life is the MEANING which you GIVE TO EVENTS. Almost everything else is out of your control.  Like my quote says,  you have the freedom to choose your own attitude in any given circumstance!  The story you tell yourself about the events that happen in your life, and the MEANING you give that story, will directly affect the quality of your life.

Tell an empowering story. Give a positive and empowering meaning to that story and detach from the need to react like you would normally. The more you do this, the smoother life will become – not because there are fewer problems – but because you have come to understand the true gifts of the problems in your life.

Once you do this, the Universe can give you EVEN bigger problems to be grateful for and learn from. This is how you become successful. Tell an empowering story about the events of your life, give that story an empowering meaning and watch the magic unfold! Quit telling that “poor me” story and living in victim-hood because something happened to you. Get out there and see how you happened to your life and become the Victor you are meant to be!! -Kathie

Evil, What Evil?

February 28th, 2011

Governing a large country is like frying a small fish You spoil it with too much poking Approach the Universe with the Tao and evil will have no power.
Not that evil is not powerful, but its power will not be used to harm others.
Not only will it not do harm to others but the sage himself will also be protected.
If only the ruler and his people would refrain from harming each other,
all the benefits of life would accumulate in the kingdom.
-Verse 60 of the Tao Te Ching
 

If you have no ill thoughts toward yourself or others the powers of wickedness and wrongdoing will be rendered impotent. It is divine law that you are protected and as long as you give evil nothing to oppose it will disappear.

Have you ever fried a fish and poked it so much that it just turned to mush? Well that is what Lao Tzu is trying to say here about governing a larger country. You spoil it with too much poking. And if we were to approach life with the same attitude evil would have no power. 

A friend of mine told me a story that is very relevant to this. She said that one day her hair salon was broken into. When the robbers broke in they stole jewelry from the nail tech and then the robbers actually bagged up products of Lydia’s. They stole things of value from the nail tech but the robbers ended up leaving my friend’s stuff. It turned out that my friend was protected somehow. The robbers bagged up those items but did not take them.

Here is another great relevant story that I read in one of Dr. Joseph Murphy’s books. He said he had a conference with an ex-Sergeant of the Army, who had just returned from Vietnam. He told of a fascinating and absorbing episode which had occurred during his tour of duty there. One afternoon when he was on patrol with his men they walked right into six Viet Cong soldiers, who immediately killed all five men in his patrol before they could lift their rifles. Obviously, the Viet Cong had seen them coming and had ambushed them.

The enemy soldiers looked straight at him but never spoke or indicated they saw him. They went through the pockets of his men and took papers, weapons, and all contents. He was amazed and could not understand it. He found his way back to his battalion and later wrote about his experience to his mother in Kentucky. She wrote back: “They did not see you, son. They could not see you or touch you because I have prayed daily, ‘My son will always be invisible to the enemy. God is his refuge and fortress.’”

This man’s mother decreed constantly that her son would be invisible to the enemy and would be protected by God. According to Dr. Murphy this was communicated to her son’s subconscious mind, which responded according to the impression or decree given. Every letter she wrote her son concluded with these words taken from the 46th Psalm: “God shall help you, and that right early.”

Undoubtedly these letters and prayers written by his mother had a profound effect upon him and made a deep impression in his subconscious mind, which responded to her conviction of God’s protection for him.

He gave evil nothing to oppose and it disappeared, actually he disappeared!

Be strong in mind and spirit and you too will find evil disappearing from your life.

Action Precedes Motiviation – New Year’s Resolution Key

December 13th, 2010

The time is upon us! Time to prepare for new year resolutions. I am here to help you. Here is the first of a few posts to get you motivated to start 2011 fresh!!

Bad habits that keep you from reaching optimal health, such as smoking, drinking or overeating don’t have to follow you into the New Year. However, if you don’t want these habits hanging around for another 12 months, you must prepare yourself psychologically.

Experts agree that no matter how stubborn a habit you’ve developed, there are ways to break those negative patterns and keep healthy resolutions throughout the New Year. The trick is to keep everything in perspective. Perspective, now I like that!!

“Focus on realistic goals with measurable results,” says Jill RachBeisel, M.D., director of Community Psychiatry at the University of Maryland Medical Center and associate professor of psychiatry at the University of Maryland School of Medicine. “You need to break things down into small steps that you can manage.”

For example, Dr. RachBeisel says that, instead of trying to lose 50 pounds, you should focus on losing five pounds at a time. Instead of trying to lose five pounds a week, focus on losing one pound a week.

“Create bite-sized jobs for yourself that you’ll be able to accomplish,” states Dr. RachBeisel. “If your goal is too big, you’ll feel defeated before you even get started.”

When deciding on your New Year’s resolutions, it is easy to get swept up in hopeful yearning. As the clock ticks away the final minutes of the old year, the excitement can be intoxicating. You believe that you’ll be able to tackle your goals effortlessly. But, after the initial rush of New Year’s celebration fades and reality sets in, your ambitions can once again seem insurmountable.

According to Hinda Dubin, M.D., a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at the University of Maryland School of Medicine and psychiatrist at the University of Maryland Medical Center, the key to achieving even your most lofty goals is to get started immediately.

Action precedes motivation, not the other way around,” said Dr. Dubin. “People often think that they should wait until they are motivated to start doing something good for themselves. They say, ‘I’ll start that diet or fitness program when I’m really well rested and have a lot of energy’. But it doesn’t work that way.”

Dr. Dubin says that instead of waiting for inspiration to act on your goals, you need to take action first and inspiration will follow. Your initial action doesn’t have to be anything big. Just by putting on your sneakers and hopping on the treadmill for 10 minutes, you will make that energy you are “waiting” for materialize.

“Once you initiate an action — even the smallest of actions — you pick up momentum and you realize, ‘Hey, this isn’t so bad,’ and it becomes a lot easier to keep moving forward and to stay motivated,” says Dr. Dubin.

Expert Advice

University of Maryland experts offer these additional tips to help you reach your goals:

  • Avoid perfectionist thinking. While we certainly always want to better ourselves, it is healthier to think in positive terms than it is to focus on how much we fall short of our aspirations. In other words, students should view the grade of an A- as better than a B, rather than not as good as an A.
  • View setbacks as lessons for growth. Mistakes can be, and usually are, opportunities for learning. If you fall short of your goals, ask yourself what kept you from achieving them and then try to make corrections. People who like to sail understand this navigational concept. You almost never go directly from point A to point B. You set a course and periodically take readings of your position then make adjustments as you go along.
  • Don’t make absolute resolutions. Keep them realistic. For example, Dr. Dubin suggests that instead of saying you won’t yell at your kids anymore, resolve to yell at them less often.
  • Don’t keep your resolutions to yourself. Tell someone you trust about your resolutions. Dr. Dubin says that it helps to share your goals with friends, who can gently nudge you in the right direction when you veer off course.
  • Give them some meaning. According to Dr. RachBeisel, people sometimes make goals that aren’t necessarily meaningful to them. Your goal should be something you really desire to change or achieve, not something that society says is good for you to do or your family members would like to see you do. If you don’t have strong, internal motivation within yourself, you won’t be successful.
  • Take baby steps. Set realistic goals that are attainable and then take small steps that are likely to be met with success toward those goals. Don’t try to lose 10 pounds in a week or quit smoking cold turkey with no preparation. Instead, try joining a weight loss program and try to lose a pound a week, or join a smoking cessation group.
  • Fine-tune your spirituality. Dr. Dubin says that it is important to add a spiritual dimension to your goals. For example, if one of your goals is to get fit, you may also resolve to get outdoors more often instead of going to the gym. Time outside will help you get in balance with nature, and will honor both the physical and spiritual sides of yourself.

Book Recommendations

December 7th, 2010

Get your Kindle for ease and reading of these books and more! A great holiday gift too!!

 

Here are a list of some of Kathie’s Fitness Blog’s Favorite books. You can find a little of everything in this gadget. Health and Fitness, Healthy Recipes, to Life Coaching and Healthy Living. Check them out today!! Thank you, Kathie

Thanks Mastin for The Daily Love

December 5th, 2010

As a Life Coach I am always on the lookout for great information for my clients. The Daily Love is one of the best gems on the web!! The Daily Love boasts of being a “FREE daily e-multivitamin for your soul.” I wholeheartedly agree!! Mastin Kipp is the founder of the The Daily Love.  And daily it is!! Every single morning at 6am (Central Standard Time US) promptly my email box has this wonderful inspiration in it from The Daily Love. I honestly look forward to reading this and soak up every single word. Often times I pass on some quotes to my friends and clients on facebook, or on twitter, or I place them in my “Gem Bowl” on my desk at the studio. And  today I share with you one of my favorites in a blog post right here. I highly recommend you go to The Daily Love yourself and sign up for this daily email. Or should I say, daily e-multivitamin for your soul. 

 Thanks Mastin for the blessings you bestow up many in this lifetime! -Kathie :)

And now for the Daily Love’s Daily Email for December 5, 2010 

TODAY’sQUOTES
“To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.” – Bruce Lee, one of the most influential martial artists of the 20th century, and a cultural icon.

“Each one has to find his peace from within. And peace to be real must be unaffected by outside circumstances.” – Mohandas Gandhi, was the pre-eminent political and ideological leader of India during the Indian independence movement.

“Nothing gives one person so much advantage over another as to remain always cool and unruffled under all circumstances.” – Thomas Jefferson, was the third President of the United States & the principal author of the Declaration of Independence. Jefferson was one of the most influential Founding Fathers.

MASTINSAYS
My name is Mastin Kipp & I am the Founder of The Daily Love.

Do not attach your self worth to the circumstances of your life. What happens “out there” does not define who you are. When things don’t go your way, when things go “wrong”, and especially if you do not seem to currently have enough money, do not attach a story or sense of self worth to your circumstances.

Who you really are, the powerful being within you, can decide to take charge and CHANGE your current circumstances. If you were indeed just your circumstances you would not be able to change them.

The mere fact that you have make a different choice, educate yourself, raise your standards and want better for yourself means that you are more than your circumstances. If you weren’t, there is no way you would even be able to have thoughts of change.

Realize this profound Truth – that you are not your circumstances. You have the most powerful force available to you right now – the power of choice. To want more. To become who you know you really are, beyond your fear, to embrace the Unknown with a cool and confident knowing that “you got this”.

Detach from any stories you tell yourself that attach your worth to your circumstances. Circumstances are neutral. You are strong and able to change your circumstances.

TODAY’sAFFIRMATIONS
I change my circumstances by aligning my thoughts and actions with what I want.

I am more than my circumstances; I am the powerful creator of my life.

I know that this too will pass.

I’ve got this!

UNI-VERSE
Many of you have asked why we say “Uni-verse” – so we added a “Why Uni-verse?” section to the website. To find out the answer click here.

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